You will know that real forgiveness has come into you concerning an offending other when you never again give any thought whatsoever to the one who hurt you in a negative or belittling way. Such forgiveness really does exist. Do your inner work and learn all that you can about your own heart and what lives within it presently. As you see what is True about you, forgiveness for others follows. Once forgiveness has been found within us for another, this marks the end of all forms of contemplating past conflicts and their pains.