The pain we feel over being betrayed is not the fault of the one who has fractured our trust. Such anguish belongs to, and is created by, those darkly combustible parts of us into which we so readily fall and become inflamed whenever certain self-supports are unexpectedly pulled out from beneath us.

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Any “I” that hates relates not to the person it holds responsible for this rage, but this “I” sits in secret relationship with ruinous negative states that have neither place nor power in this world without drawing some sleeping soul into an unconscious conspiracy called “blame.”