It is impossible to lash out at another person without having first hurt yourself.

We will never be in command of ourselves until we feel the blow that we would give. Once we begin to feel the blow we would give, once we begin to taste what we would give to another human being, then we no longer want to do that. That is the beginning of command – not because we’re changing the person, but because we’ve started to see that there is a certain part of ourselves that surfaces in these moments, and the only thing it knows to do is to follow its own thinking.