Question: So if a person feels “I have no love in my life,” if that person would even have a sincere wish to know love, would that be the beginning of true love?

Answer: You can build a fire in the winter, and if you come back after it has been out for a long time, if you stir those ashes, there’s always a little spark in there. I don’t care who you are, how dead the heart feels. If you can feel that the heart is dead, it’s still alive. And if it’s still alive, that means it can be re-inflamed. But it’s work. Love will give you everything that you need — that which draws you to it will also give you what you need to succeed with that relationship — but you have to be willing to approach it. You have to give up what is un-loving — that sense of self that you cling to about how you’ve been denied something or didn’t get your fair shake. It can be changed if you want it to be.