Question: I have tried overcoming my fears, and fight as I might, I just can’t seem to break free of their dark and self-limiting influences. To be safe from something, don’t you have to find a way to be stronger than it?

Answer: Yes, but fighting with fear is like trying to deliver a knock-out punch to a scary shadow. If you will dare to go ahead and be just as frightened as you really are, but at the same time agree to meet fears consciously, you will actually see that, as real as they may seem, these fears are not you! And no wrong reaction can dominate you once you begin to see it for what it is. Fear is, and has always been, nothing but a self-limiting reaction that we cling to in the darkness of our present life-level, having mistaken it for a shield of self-protection. Just dare to proceed even while being afraid. But remember, your new aim isn’t to be courageous or to try and act strong in the face of fear. You simply want to be more curious about your frightened thoughts and feelings than you want to believe in them.

If you will follow this simple but Higher Instruction, not only will you start to see these habitual reactions that have been keeping you scared and running, you’ll actually start seeing through them. This is where the real miracle occurs. With each new insight into the actual nature of these negative reactions, they lose some of their power over you. And their loss is your gain. You are stronger now and you know it. And you also know this new strength will never fail you because it isn’t just the temporary appearance of a bold opposite. This new strength of yours is the absence of an old weakness.

 

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