When events do not go according to our expectations, we often light ourselves on fire with anger, blaming life for not having fulfilled our desires. When desire for a certain outcome does not match what takes place, we begin resenting the result, then rejecting the result, which eventually confirms within ourselves that life has somehow wronged us.

The pain of broken expectations comes from the unseen idea we carry around that who we are — our sense of self — depends upon our expectations being fulfilled by the moment… [more]

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