Whenever we are angry or upset with others for their unkindness towards us, the hardest thing to see in such moments is that the person we are about to punish is already in more pain than he or she can bear… and that this ache in their soul is the secret driving force behind their thoughtlessness. To see this suffering of the one before us, before we increase it, is how we learn to consciously bear our own.

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