The thing that is unwanted in any moment is not the event we blame for our pain. The real source of our suffering is mechanically identifying with a negative reaction, and then unconsciously resisting our own dark state. In other words: Resistance is the source of our pain, and not the event being blamed for it. Once this process — of how we are complicit in creating the moments over which we complain–is seen for what it is…it’s not that “unwanted moments” go away, but rather we stop identifying with the parts of us that see them as so.