Higher love, the kind of unconditional patience and tenderness that heals old wounds, that helps us to be compassionate, kind, encouraging, and forbearing of our partner’s limitations, is a choice we must make not just every day, but in every moment with everyone we know. It’s a practice we must choose or we will lose its priceless gift.

Each of the following insights suggest a completely new way to look at unwanted moments with your partner by laying down “your side” of that problem long enough to see not just the “other” side, but that no one side of any suffering between you tells the whole story.

Taken all together they point to the possibility that we are all on an endless journey, being perfectly guided by love to realize a perfect partnership…not just with the one we love, but with Love itself that wants only to perfect us.

1. The real problem we have with others is what we don’t yet see and understand about ourselves.

2. Our relationships help reveal what’s concealed in us that needs to be healed.

3. If our wish is to discover a new and higher kind of love – the only one that can empower us to transcend our differences with our partner –then we must begin to see our old excuses for finding fault with him or her as… faulty!

4. Seeing ourselves as we are allows us to see what our partner is looking at, at the same time!

5. It’s not by ignoring the differences between our partner and us that we get past how they “rub” us wrong; but rather by learning to use them – as does the jeweler his polishing wheel – to help perfect both of us, not only as lovers and friends, but also as individuals.

6. When it comes to being partners with the one we love…any time we fight, each of us is responsible for whatever may be happening to both of us.

7. Opposing forces are powerless to change their own patterns; they can only repeat themselves.

8. Despite any appearance to the contrary, it’s not our partner, nor is it we who strike the first blow in any dispute: It’s pain that picks the fight.

9. The pain in any moment of conflict is neither just our own, nor is it just our partner’s; it exists as it does because – one way or another – we’re (in it) together; which means…that pain is ours.

10. We are in each other’s life to help each other learn how to love one another… perfectly.

11. Our negative reactions have no awareness of themselves at all, which means that not only are they blind, but they are also incapable of loving anything.

12. If we will do our part, love will do the rest…but we must choose to put it to the test. With love, all things are possible.

Talks in the Pines 2019: Deepen Your Relationship With The Divine
Live Boldly, Forgive Freely, Love Unconditionally. Intensive Workshop with Self-Realization Teacher, Guy Finley

https://www.guyfinley.org/events/2019-talks-in-the-pines-workshop.html