Make Your Relationship Work

I get a lot of questions about what guys say versus what they really mean.  So I thought I’d take a moment to answer them, all of them, because, simply, it doesn’t matter what he “really” means.  What matters is what he’s saying to you. Simply put, if somebody you’re in a relationship says something…

Had a seemingly innocent question land in my inbox recently. “What does it mean to love yourself? People are always saying it nowadays. Men have said it to me. But what does it even mean? How can you love yourself?” I saw it, thought, yeah, I can answer that, I have used the phrase a…

One of the things I advocate to people when meeting somebody new is to ask as many pertinent questions as possible. Of course, this can be a dangerous proposition as you don’t want to make the date(s) feel like interviews, though in reality, that’s exactly what they are. What are important questions? Well, things about…

There are appropriate times to bring up certain things in a relationship, and certain things you shouldn’t discuss until you’re ready, but there is one thing that, if it comes up, you need to be honest about it: if you’re still friends with an ex. And, yes, it’s possible to still be friends with your…

I was crawling the net the other day, looking for parental abuse cases (don’t ask why, you REALLY don’t want to know) and came across a true gem. A pair of children sue their mother for “bad mothering.” Now you know that is a headline you simply gotta click on, regardless of what you are looking…

Tell Valentine’s Day to kick rocks. Call up Christmas and say, “you can keep your three hoes, Santa.” Message the Ides of March and tell it to…well, I don’t know exactly what people do on the Ides of March aside from watch their back. But I’m sure some wayward couples celebrate that day together. Fact is,…

There are a lot of confused people out there, say roughly every last person in the country. The sheer complexity of modern life, where you daily use things that you can not understand, combined with the deliberate confusopoly of advertising almost guarantees you’ll be scratching your head in bafflement at least twice a day. I…

Not a day goes by that I don’t get one question, one very baffling and kind of troubling question: “He/she is married.  Should I date him/her?” No.  No you shouldn’t.  No matter what the situation, NO. “But the marriage is unhappy!” Says who?  The person you’re thinking about dating?  Oh, yeah, they’re trustworthy on this…

As a man, there are certain things that I am just not built to understand about women. Why it can take so long to get ready in the morning; how two women can seemingly have four different conversations at the exact same time and never miss a beat; why The Notebook is considered a good…

I talk about signs a lot here on Beliefnet. I’ve posted blogs about signs if he is cheating, signs that he’s not into you, signs you’re his ‘Back Pocket Girl’ and everything in-between. I do this because these posts are all about behavior, and a person’s actions are the most trustworthy thing about him. Also, you ask many…

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