Last time, I covered the basics of what one looks at in the birth chart as far as potential for marriage or long-term relationships. This time, we get into the heavy duty technical details of one specific relationship facing difficult times. If you love that sort of thing, read on — it will illustrate the complexities that go into doing a reading. If you’d rather cut to the chase, skip the technicalities, and get some answers: go ahead and read the last section of this blog entry.
Normally when I do an actual reading for someone I don’t go into such painful detail as to the techniques and terminology that goes into it. In this case though, for illustrative purposes, I’m laying it all out in full detail. No, this will not be the quiz for 40% of your final mark — so relax.
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GN writes:
Is the present marriage that I am in likely to end, when, under what circumstances, and will there be another for me, and when?
Right now must be an interesting time in your relationship. On the one hand, you’ve got all these transits (details below) destabilizing the situation. On the other hand though, you are currently experiencing your Saturn Trine. That transit tends to lend stability to a person’s life one way or another, and seeing as Saturn is the ruler of your Seventh House you’d think that this would be good news for your marriage. In some ways it probably is, but stability is not always a good thing. If things are running well for you, then stability is great. However if you’ve been in a shipwreck and you’re clinging to life by hanging on to the wreckage of your life boat, looking around and seeing that you’re in a stable situation (“Yup, still no rescue in sight, same as yesterday”) doesn’t help much, does it? To which I can only respond: yes, but at least you’re not in Shark Country.
Of course you can use that stability to strengthen your resolve to either fix things or get out, depending on what you want. But with the other transits you’re having, it’s hard to know exactly what you want, isn’t it?
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Let me answer the last part of your question first. If next week you told me that you broke up with your spouse, I could easily give you time frames in which you might very well find yourself married (or in a committed relationship) again. However: keep in mind that even if you do break up with your spouse next week and meet your ideal dream mate the week after, the transits that led to the breakup of your marriage will still be in place. Have you ever noticed how often people get out of a turbulent relationship and get into another one soon afterwards, and even if that second relationship should in theory work fine there’s always trouble? People will tell you that’s because you need time to work on your self, and that’s often true. What I’m saying is that a transit that breaks up your marriage this week is going to be too big a transit to be over with by next week.
With Saturn as the ruler of your Seventh House cusp, and with your Saturn taking a very helpful trine from Jupiter in your birth chart, I can make a general observation that you will generally do well with your committed relationships and probably won’t have too hard a time finding one or making one work. Saturn as ruler of your seventh implies a certain desire for and understanding of the need for stability in a relationship. As with so many things in life though, you’ve got to be careful what kind of foundation your building that relationship on.
This is all in spite of the fact that your Saturn in Aries is technically a “debilitated” placement. If you think that a debilitated planet means you’ll never get good results, then you’ve never been on the receiving end of Muhammad Ali’s Mars in Taurus.
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Astrologically speaking, the biggest problem with your marriage right now is transiting Pluto passing through your Seventh House, square your Seventh House ruler, Saturn. You may have noticed that Saturn is a very slow planet. One way or another you are unlikely to find the stability you want in a committed relationship for the next year or so. In time Pluto will move on and will eventually cross over your Seventh House cusp, which in its own right will bring more dramatic changes to your marriage and/or committed relationship. That won’t be kicking in until towards the end of this decade, so write me and ask about that then.
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After having written well over a thousand words in an attempt to answer your relatively simple question, here’s the punchline: not only is your marriage adapting and evolving rapidly, you and your attitude towards committed relationships in general is also changing. You may very well have an idea in your head now as to what you want out of a marriage, but regardless of what actually happens I’m willing to bet that two years from now that image will be significantly changed — and may be much better suited to who you are.
Now, here’s the good news. Even though Pluto is going to be square your Seventh House ruler for the next couple of years, it will also be in trine range of your natal Uranus and Pluto for the next three to four years. The issues that are manifesting now that are causing problems for your marriage may simply be the birth pangs of a new and better you, regardless of the outcome of this particular marriage.
Pluto transits can be a wonderful growth opportunity, but it would be wrong of me to sell them to you entirely in those terms. Pluto transits often suck. They blow things up. Calling a difficult Pluto transit a “wonderful growth opportunity” may technically be true, but it’s also a little like calling your flooded basement an indoor pool. Then again, maybe your basement needed renovating anyway and you just kept putting it off until now.
You have free will as to how you deal with things, and so does your spouse. By laying out the general circumstances and the timing involved, even in a situation like this where I can’t give you a distinct yes or no answer, astrology can still be of tremendous use. We now know that whatever it is that is making trouble for your marriage won’t be going away tomorrow, or next month. So: what do you do?
Yes, it is difficult for me to answer your original question very simply. Life is often like that. A complex problem usually has a simple solution… and it’s usually wrong.
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