In preparation for my upcoming series on flirting, I consulted that source of all wisdom (the Internet) for what guidance I could find on the subject of flirting. If you do a search for “how to flirt” you will quickly discovered two things:
-There is a lot of advice out there for teenagers on the subject. This is a reminder of two very important things: teenagers drive a lot of traffic on the Internet, and teenagers are generally completely lacking in self-confidence.
-There is a lot of terrible advice out there about how to flirt, and as is often the case with terrible advice in so many subject areas, Cosmopolitan stands proudly at the vanguard. Although, in all fairness, their advice to “ask the motorcycle dude next to you to tell the story behind his awesome tattoo” just might work.
Most of the advice out there boils down to something like “be bold, but not too bold” and “make eye contact, but try not to look like a stalker” Fortunately, science has something to say on the whole matter of flirting. If you want to look it up, there has been lots of surprisingly specific research done as to what gestures to make, what to say, what’s the right amount of smiling, arm touching, and body language behavior to engage in. But once you’re broken it down and studied the science, give yourself an advantage by using the power of astrology.
It seems to me that, even though flirting isn’t generally considered “aggressive,” it is still a part of the active sex drive… in other words, Mars. Venus is more passive, but has its role too. Venus is what you bait the trap with, but Mars is the act of setting that trap. So once you’ve read all those articles online about what kind of eye contact is best and when and how to use touch and so on, you can improve your odds of success by understanding the strengths of your Mars placement.
Mars in a Fire Sign (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius): Your particular strength is in taking action and being bold about it. Take whatever flirting advice you read about and then turn the volume up on it by about 10%.
Mars in an Earth Sign (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn): You have a reputation for being particularly sensual and… well, earthy… so pay particular attention to your body language and the strategic usage of touch at the right moments. Your touch is particularly powerful, so use it!
Mars in an Air Sign (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius): Air Signs have a reputation for being good with words, and you should take advantage of your gift for banter. Also: your eyes are particularly appealing. Play them up.
Mars in a Water Sign (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces): You have a reputation for being particularly sensitive and emotional, so work with that. Make the target of your affections comfortable with you, put them at ease… then move in for the kill.
Understand your strengths and apply them wisely, and you’ll get better results. But of course: unless you intent to flirt with yourself, you’ll need to know a bit about your intended target’s astrological details. The upcoming series focuses on Sun Signs, but applies well to a person’s Venus Sign (if your intent is more romantic/sexual) or their Moon Sign (if you simply want to put someone at ease with you). So yes: you’ll be able to use this information to successfully win over a Sagittarius with Moon in Cancer and Venus in Aquarius (or whatever). Yes, it’s a bit complex… but so are humans.
PS: Hey, Cosmopolitan! Your advice to flirt with the guy by buying him “a pair of silk boxers to pamper his package since he’s been ‘working extra hard lately'” is probably the dumbest thing I’ve seen since the last time I read Cosmopolitan. But: I do these things for you, Dear Reader. You’re welcome.
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