It’s not that we are negative. Really, we’re not.   It’s just that sometimes we unknowingly toss around words and phrases that can and do have a negative impact. I thought it “utterly useful” to review some of these words today.

TRY …

Do or Do not. There is no try. – Yoda teaches Luke Skywalker the force.

When we say that we will “TRY” to do something; try to follow a plan, try to lose weight, try to be patient, try to make your party, we are – in effect – creating an awful lot of wiggle room. When you say that you are going to “TRY,” what you are really saying is, “Maybe I will eat healthy foods. Maybe I won’t.” “Maybe.” Hmmmm…

When you hear yourself saying “I’ll TRY” – STOP!!! Dead in your tracks (as they say) and listen for the subtext. What are you really saying? At the very least, be straight with yourself and if you do NOT want to do something; then do not do it, but do not try. You’ll eliminate a great deal of failure. You’ll create that much less to feel badly about!

I CAN’T …

Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re always 100% right. – Greg Hickman

When you say “I can’t,” then you can’t. When you say “I can,” then you can. Your subconscious mind will seek reasons to support whatever position you take. The more times you say “I can’t,” the more you will experience limitation and failure.

When you hear yourself saying “I can’t,” STOP dead in your tracks J … pause and ask yourself, “What’s going on?” Is fear surfacing? Do you think that your current circumstances are standing in your way of doing whatever it is that you want to do? Do you not know how to do it?   Instead of saying, “I can’t,” say – “I don’t know how YET.” Begin to understand and seek solutions.
I SHOULD / I HAVE TO …

A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be. -Albert Einstein

No one likes being told that they ‘should’ or ‘have to’ do something. When we state “I should” or “I have to,” it feels as though there’s an outside authority weighing in and over us.   Inner resistance emerges. The Inner rebel surfaces!

When you hear yourself saying “I should” or “I have to” … that’s right STOP dead in your tracks and ask yourself whether or not you want to do this? You always have a choice.

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