He has said, “I will never [under any circumstances] desert you [nor give you up nor leave you without support, nor will I in any degree leave you helpless], nor will I forsake or let you down or relax My hold on you [assuredly not]!” (Hebrews 13:5)
It’s wedding season; a time for great joy, fancy receptions, high-end attire, and champagne toasts to happy couples. But for some, as anniversary dates roll by, sweet dreams of tropical honeymoons turn to hellish nightmares of rejection and loneliness. Not every couple makes it through the enemy’s strategic land mines. Sometimes one finds oneself single. Again. Against one’s will.
Personally, someone dearest to our hearts is no exception. Yesterday was her wedding anniversary. Last year she was blissfully celebrating. This year, mourning.
We have seen firsthand that there is hardly anything in the world more devastating than being rejected by a spouse, especially if another person has usurped their own sacred place, through an adulterous relationship.
The devil is such a liar. He lures us into his trap with bait that looks enticing, but in the end it is deadly poison. Still, so many succumb and find themselves in his ruthless grip.
The temptation to seek out greener pastures in our marriages is real. Mark and I experienced the enemy’s strategic allurement in the early years of our marriage, as have many others we have talked with. Thank God He gave us a way of escape – as He promises to do, sparing us from sin and our family from much sorrow and enduring agony.
If you are married, it’s safe to say you can most likely expect that you will encounter this type of attack and temptation at some point in your marital journey. Prepare for battle. Stay open, transparent, real, humble, and honest with your spouse. Talk about it, bringing it out into the light where what is dark can be quickly extinguished.
Wear your armor everyday, my friend…
The end of a marriage is truly like a death, only perhaps worse. Instead of one funeral, divorce is one funeral after another, with many memories to redeem.
If someone you love has suffered the trauma of rejection by their spouse, they need our prayer support. Join us in prayer as we lift up a loved one who has undergone spousal rejection.
Father,
I thank You that You have promised to be close to the broken-hearted. That promise holds secure today. I lift up my loved one to Your throne. She/He has been through shock, horror, grief, sorrow, and trauma in this rejection.
Lord, comfort our loved one like only You can. Help her/him to see that You are not the author of pain and disaster, yet through it – in spite of it – You weave a new story that will bring even more joy and more purpose than before.
Help her/him to trust in You alone in this process of grief and sorrow. Help her/him to wring every ounce of Your love through this insufferable journey.
Give us grace to walk with her/him through this tragedy, seeing her/him safely to the other side. Return her/him hope. Help her/him to despise the shame associated with rejection and divorce and to embrace the joy that comes even in the midst of pain and the rugged trail of trial.
We love You so much for being this kind of God! You are Good! Your love endures, helping us to endure as well!
In Jesus’ Name
Amen!
“I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, who will never leave you” (John 14:16).
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