I’m not sure where I fall on this whole “like attracts like” thing.  Ya know… the idea that you attract what you think about most.  The theory behind “The Secret” and “vision boards.”  It’s confusing to me because on one hand, I do believe that you can attract certain things into your life but on the other hand, I know that God gives me all of my blessings, I don’t conjure them up myself.

So, yea… like I said, I’m not sure.

But, one thing I DO know is you CAN allow or prevent certain things from happening in your life by whether or not you believe enough.

Here’s what I mean…

Say you don’t believe you are talented enough to handle a certain job like the editor of a magazine.  Then, even if that opportunity presents itself… you will shy away from it, saying you’re not “ready” yet and that you’re “just” a writer.  Or if you’ve always wanted to live abroad but you don’t believe that you could actually survive in another country on your own, then you will never even take the steps to get there like looking for jobs abroad, learning a new language or getting your passport.

The same can be true the other way around.

If you believe that you deserve a great man or woman for a spouse, who is respectful, honorable and kind, then you won’t settle for anything less.  Even if a dysfunctional person comes into your life, you won’t give them the time of day and will quickly move on.  Because you believe you deserve better.

I don’t know if you literally can attract or repel these things (although I swear, when I think about not getting stuck in traffic, I get stuck in traffic every time), but you certainly can set yourself up for success or failure based on what you believe about yourself.

Your thoughts have power.  Your thoughts trigger emotions, which then guide your actions.

The only problem with that is if your thoughts were incorrect in the first place (like negative thoughts that make you feel bad about yourself for no reason), then your feelings will be wrong and you’ll act accordingly.

For example, if you think you don’t deserve a nice guy, then you’ll start to feel (and believe) that you don’t deserve a nice guy, which means… you will start ignoring the nice guys and only date the not-so-nice ones.  Or if you think you can’t handle a higher level job, then you’ll start to feel useless and incompetent, which means… you will start slacking on your work or not try out for a promotion.

YOU have to believe in YOU.

You DO have control over your thoughts and feelings.  You rule them, not the other way around.

So what’s it going to be?

… Believe it or not?