Valentine’s Day is often seen as the ultimate holiday for couples. After all, the holiday is all about romance, passion, love and all those things that are associated with happy relationships. All the hype around Valentine’s Day, however, can put a lot of pressure on you and your significant other to get it right the first time you spend Valentine’s Day as a couple. It can get to the point that some couples are desperate to simply get past February so they can relax and actually enjoy their relationship rather than panicking over whether or not they got reservations at the right restaurant for maximum romantic effect. This is unfortunate since holidays should be fun. With that in mind, here are some ways to nail your first Valentine’s Day together.

Pick a gift that’s them.

The classic Valentine’s Day gifts are chocolate, flowers and jewelry. If your partner is not into those things, though, get them something they will enjoy. If your girlfriend is an archery nut, buy her some new arrows or a gift card to the local shooting range. If your gal is crazy about health food, give her a fruit basket instead of a basket of chocolates. Also, don’t be afraid to get your man something. Valentine’s Day gifts are typically envisioned as being from the man to the woman, but there is no reason women can’t show their appreciation, too.

Choose your own level of romance.

Some people don’t like Valentine’s Day because they find it too romantic. To them, Valentine’s Day is all about staring deeply into your partner’s eyes while giving flowery descriptions of your love that seem to come straight out of a Victorian bodice ripper. This is not everyone’s scene. Some people prefer a more lighthearted evening. So, pick something that can be as cheesy, passionate, silly or deeply meaningful as you want. Go to a cheesy romance instead of a movie filled with passion so you can either be touched by the romance or snicker at the terrible script. Bake a cake instead of going out to dinner so you can throw flour on each other or share candlelight kisses.

Avoid the couples’ restaurant.

Every town has a restaurant or two that are the romantic establishments in town. On Valentine’s Day, stay well away from those. They may have great food and great atmosphere, but on Heart Day, you are going to be sharing the restaurant with every other couple in town. Head somewhere else meaningful to you instead of waiting for an hour to get a table and then being unable to hear each other talk all night anyway.

Most of all on Valentine’s Day, do what makes you and your partner happy. If neither of you are big into chocolates and flowers, why bother buying them? If you don’t like to go out, throw on a movie. Valentine’s Day is supposed to be all about love, but everyone’s love is different. So, forget about the stereotypes and what you are “supposed” to do, and instead do what truly makes you and your partner happy.