A Florida megachurch has refuted the concept of every person being destined to fall in love with one person, commonly known as “the one.” In a sermon shared in early February, Pastor J.J. Vasquez of the Orlando-based Journey Church said that the idea of people searching for their romantic partner who “God destined” as “the one” is unrealistic for numerous reasons.

Vasquez, who founded his church in 2014 with his wife, Liz, said, “This is the image of love that we’re sold in all of the multi-million-dollar making movies. “’You complete me,’ that we are a picture that is missing the piece and that somewhere in the world God has cut someone out who can’t fit right into the area of your heart that you are missing.”

Vaquez believes that the concept of “the one” isn’t biblical and doesn’t believe in it. He said the idea of “the one” makes God’s plan for the world easily broken if someone misses their person. Vasquez added that people who think their romantic partner is “the one” give that person too much power, ignoring that some people weren’t meant to get married. He also said the “the one” concept ignores the Bible’s words.

Vasquez cited Matthew 19:12, which reads, “there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others — and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven.” The pastor said those who are meant to be single for life have been given a gift from God, and there’s a purpose in that gift.

Vasquez said, “If you’re single, you don’t have to worry about the other puzzle pieces. All you got to do is connect to your purpose [in God]. Because when you connect to your purpose, even if the other person doesn’t come, all your needs are still met.”

The idea that some people have that “the one will complete my heart” often leaves Jesus out of the picture, he warned, adding that everyone has an empty void in their heart that needs to be filled with Jesus, not other people.  “If you’re missing a piece, and that person holds the piece of your heart, you’re telling me you’re putting all your identity, all your hope, all your peace in the hands of a person? Have you ever met a person? People are crazy,” Vasquez said.

“What if that person decides to cheat on you and gives your heart to someone else or steps on your heart? What if that person dies and takes your heart with them to the grave? What then? Not only that, the logic all falls apart. Because hear me, this is the real issue. If we all are pictures, missing our pieces, then another person could never fill me. Why? Because then that would mean that they too [are missing a piece of their heart].”

Vasquez said it’s essential for Christians to recognize that “the one” does not exist and that loneliness won’t disappear just because one gets married.