Here is some wisdom from the fabulous Maya Angelou:

 

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…

 

One old love she can imagine going back to…

and one who reminds her how far she has come…

enough money within her control to move out and rent

a place of her own… even if she never wants to or needs to…

something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…

a youth she’s content to leave behind…

a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to retelling it in her old age…

the realization that she is actually going to have an old age and some money set aside to fund it…

a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…

one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family..

eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored…

a resume that is not even slightest bit padded…

a feeling of control over her destiny…

a skin care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30…

a solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying

relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better after 30…

 

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

how to fall in love without losing herself…

how she feels about having kids…

how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the relationship..

when to try harder… and when to walk away…

how to have a good time at a party she’d never choose to attend…

how to ask for what she wants in a way that makes it most likely she’ll get it…

that she can’t change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents…

that her childhood may not have been perfect… but its over…

what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…

how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

where to go… be it to her best friend’s kitchen table or a charming inn in the woods when her soul needs soothing…

what she can and can’t accomplish in a day… a month… and a year…

*****

Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

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