The Queen of My Self

A huge proportion of the world’s people are living in the vicinity of a volcano. Waiting for the second shoe to drop, as it were. Always aware of danger. Under the constant threat of fire — an uneasy truce at best. It must be like living with an abusive parent or spouse. Never knowing when…

Women have long documented their domestic knowledge and experience by keeping written manuscripts of recipes for food, medicines, inks and cleaning supplies, in order to pass it down through the generations of their families. Martha Washington’s Booke of Cookery is such a hand written manuscript cookbook, which was given to her in 1749 and used…

By Carol Tandava But no matter how much we have learned to suppress, control and deny our expression, rest assured: Each of us has a full complement of these “shunted off ” pieces of unprocessed emotional experience, which can emerge, indeed forcefully erupt, when triggered by experiences that resemble or resonate with the initial experience.…

By Carol Tandava  …continued from yesterday’s post… I read once that any emotion, fully and honestly experienced, will always return to love (i.e. positive emotion). So if something upsets me, I can usually find something in myself — some belief I have about the world, myself, etc. that says, “You will never be happy/have what…

By Carol Tandava “I’ll give you something to cry about!!!” A young mother slaps her crying toddler on a subway; the kid shrieks even louder. In another car, a mom continues chatting with her friend while her own child wails. In both cars, onlookers have a variety of reactions: Horror, impatience, resentment, resignation. In the…

By Sharon Riegie Maynard If I had needed a reminder of the deplorable state of women in our country, it could not have come with greater power than via my oldest Granddaughter, Sara. Sara is an incredible young woman… you know that kind of granddaughter, right? She lives in another state, is doing her very adult…

By Tracey Baum-Wicks, Syracuse, NY A few years ago I started to wake up to the potential ramifications of the peak oil dilemma and began to feel drawn to the notion of food security and sustainable farming practices. As a single gal in midlife, I began daydreaming about retirement from my skincare and bodywork practice, a vision,…

By VIRGINIA POSTREL I admit it. When I was growing up, my father called me “Princess.” Routinely. Even when I was in high school. This was strange, I now realize, and not just because I was more nerd than girly-girl. The United States has been a republic for more than two centuries. We aren’t supposed…

By Alana Kirk, The Irish Times In 150 years the life expectancy of women has doubled and they are grabbing new opportunities Imagine if you could be handed your life over again, but this time with the wisdom you have gained from experience. Well if you are a woman and 40, you just have. One hundred…

by Danielle Pergament, executive editor of Allure Here’s the upside to a midlife crisis: black eyeliner. No, obviously, I don’t mean pretty, flattering (office-appropriate!) black eyeliner. I mean the kind of black eyeliner you’d wear if you were having a dance party. On a bar. With Keith Richards. I know of what I speak. No…

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