You’re either living life by default or by design. You may not realize it but most people are living life by default. They’re not actually creating or living the kind of life they really want.

When you choose to create your life things go your way, you enjoy greater success, more happiness and live life on your terms.

When you live life by default things seem to happen to you. You get what ever is handed to you and you simply live life by reacting to situations which always increases your stress.

When you live life by default, you’re less likely to succeed, less likely to be happy, and you end up living the kind of life that others want you to live.

Creating your life is the much better option but unfortunately most people (maybe you) are living life by default, and so they’re simply not happy.

When you create your life you end up getting what you want and so you’re naturally a lot happier.

Here’s how you can start creating your life and stop living life by default.

First get a clear idea of what you want in life.

If you say: “I don’t know what I want” you’re then living life by default.

Let’s face it; you can’t create your life if you don’t know what you want to create.

So if you don’t know exactly what you want, then think about the kind of life you want to be living in 3, 5, 7 or 10 years. You should do this even if you do know what you want.

Planning ahead and forecasting your life gives you a better understanding of what’s important

When you know what’s important you can take steps to making it a reality.

You’re mind will often reject your plans, telling you things like: “that’s not possible” “you’ll never do that”, “you can’t do that” “it will never happen”, “you’re not smart enough” and so on.

These are all negative thoughts tied to negative beliefs. When you have too many negative thoughts and too many negative beliefs you end living life by default – something you want to avoid and/or change.

Having a clear idea of what you want or what you want your life to look like in a few years or more, gives your subconscious mind and your higher power clear instructions.

You’re telling them what you want and what you want to achieve.

Now they can begin making what you want a reality.

The next step in creating your life is to remove the negative thoughts and negative beliefs.

These not only get in the way of your success, they also force your subconscious mind and higher power to create more negative situations.

And when you allow the negative thoughts and negative beliefs to remain in your mind and on your subconscious mind you end up living life by default.

Your thoughts and beliefs are planted on your subconscious mind. Your subconscious then connects with your higher power, and the
universe to create your life based on what you think and believe.

By removing the negative thoughts and negative beliefs you take control of your life. You begin creating your life. You get rid of the negativity that’s holding you back and blocking.

So today get rid of those negative thoughts and negative beliefs.

Begin creating your life so you enjoy the success and happiness you want.

Now you can get your subconscious and higher power to bring you exactly what you want. Just follow the steps I share with you and you’ll begin creating your life today.

Once you’ve removed the negative thoughts you need to then give your subconscious and higher power new thoughts and new beliefs.

Remember, your subconscious and your higher power follow your thoughts and beliefs – these are they’re instructions.

Just like you would tell a cab or uber driver where you want to go, you need to tell your subconscious and your higher power what you
want in life.

Your instructions to your cab or uber driver are your words. Your directions to your subconscious and higher power are your thoughts and beliefs.

So make sure your thoughts and beliefs reflect what you want in life. Otherwise you could end up living life by default.

You have the power (and the ability) to create the kind of life you want.

Now stop living life by default. Take charge of your life and work with your subconscious mind and higher power so you create the kind of life you want. So you experience greater success, achieve those goals and enjoy life.

Stop accepting what’s handed to you. Stop settling for second best
Get rid of the negative thoughts. Get rid of the negative beliefs.
Now start using the power you have to create the kind of life you want.

Stay focused on what you want, remove those negative thoughts, and do everything you can to achieve the goals you set, don’t give up, just keep going. You’ll then move from living life by default to living life by design, which is a much more pleasant and rewarding journey

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