In response to Rabbi Waxman: I am not at all suggesting we separate couples at death. That would be heartless.

Rather, I am saying the appropriate place for such couples is in a non-denominational cemetery. Someone who did not become Jewish before death does not receive the rights of Jewish burial after death, i.e. being buried in a Jewish cemetery. I know that distinction has encouraged at least some to formalize through conversion, the close relationship they have felt to the Jewish community for all these years. For others who never convert, there are other reasonable and respectful options for settling upon a joint resting place for both partners.

— Posted by Rabbi Susan Grossman