5 Practical Tips To Do Singleness Well From Proverbs

The book of Proverbs is full of God’s wisdom and treasures to benefit the human heart. God is the giver of abundant life and in order for His children to grow they have to understand some of life’s basic principles. Proverbs is uniquely addressed to young people who are inexperienced in life and are just starting out in their independent walk with God. It is the perfect book for singles to read to get valuable insight on the best way to have a God-shaped life. Proverbs speak to many of the wrong paths that life has to offer, from stealing, to adultery and fornication, to the dangers of pride, deception, and resisting righteousness.

The rewards of wisdom are too many to count. For the life that submits to the wisdom of Proverbs, there is a tremendous source of true wealth. Not talking about just money, but the ability to navigate life with precision under the guidance of The Holy Spirit. If these principles are grasped and understood at a young age, they will lead to the path of health, wealth, and wisdom that God so desires for His children.

“Get wisdom and understanding.”

This is a continual gold thread throughout the book of Proverbs. The author encourages the reader that in all they strive to attain in life, the priority should be wisdom and understanding. True wisdom can only come from God, so the writer also stresses the importance of fearing The Lord and the need for humility to go seek The Lord’s guidance. Wisdom always suggest the best way to do something. It is the truth of God’s word properly applied in the human life. Wisdom and understanding are the best defense against foolishness. Singleness is a phase when the priority is typically attaining riches and finding a spouse, but the book encourages young singles to first establish a relationship with God, seek out His ways, and then apply them to their life.

“Prepare your work.”

Work is an important theme in Proverbs. It says that, “a man’s gift makes room for him,” (Proverbs 18:16). Finding God’s blueprint for your life is a powerful motivator because when you know your purpose, you will automatically know your work. Only the Creator God can give you this mission. God places our gift inside of us and it is our job to cultivate it through work. There are several agricultural metaphors used in the book of Proverbs, which illustrate that there’s a certain amount of effort and work that goes into developing our gifts and that “the diligent hand will rule.” Building a life involves understanding the “work” God has called you to do, cultivating that gift, and then serving it to the world.

“Do life with God.”

We are called not to lean on human wisdom and understanding, but to submit our life to God in a way that gives Him the final say in all we do. God is not someone we call on only in times of emergency but He should be a constant throughout the earthly journey. Proverbs teaches us to literally build a life using the precepts of God as the foundation. Singleness is a critical phase between young adult and full adulthood. It’s the stage we enter into before preparing to marry and deciding to build a family. A life that practices submitting to God will encourage generations that come after them to do the same. If we learn to take God with us on the journey of life when we’re young, He will be there every step of the way even as we get old.

“Guard your heart.”

Relationships are one of the most important components to life. Everything about life is built on them and our relationships that impact us at the deepest levels. Proverbs teaches us first to prioritize our relationship with God. If our relationship with God is out of order, every other area of our life will suffer as a result. Next, the Bible teaches us to have a proper relationship with ourselves. A life that lacks discipline and self-control will be opened up to wickedness, iniquity and every evil path that leads us away from the path of righteousness. Finally, the book teach us how to deal in relationships with others. Proverbs warns us to guard our hearts and practice discernment to guard our heart from those who deceive and only wish to do us harm.

“Consider the ant.”

Proverbs speaks out bluntly against both laziness and foolishness. These two characteristics will often tear down a person’s character and prevent them from getting far in life. The book encourages singles to be good stewards of their resources and to practice diligence. The Scripture says, “Go to the ant, O sluggard, observer her ways and be wise, which having no chief, officer or ruler, prepares her food in the summer and gathers her provision in the harvest,” (Proverbs 6:8). Singleness, is a time where character is being shaped, one of the worst character traits to have is one that’s lazy and foolish. Proverbs seeks to expose these detrimental habits so that the situation doesn’t compound as the person advances through adulthood.