2016-06-30
About 10 years ago, in reading spiritual articles and books, I kept noticing the word “benevolent” in stories about angels. As this is not a commonly used word, it really jumped out at me. One day I read a suggestion to request benevolent outcomes for events in your life. I decided to try it out, and was amazed how perfectly it worked for everything--from small requests such as a parking spot next to a busy restaurant or a seat on the subway to really important situations in my business and personal life.

Now, I request Most Benevolent Outcomes (MBO’s as I call them) for everything. When requesting MBOs, always thank your guardian angel, and the more emotion you can put into these requests the better. These requests need to be said aloud or in writing. After having made about 10,000 and 15,000 of these requests over the years, I am firmly convinced that our guardian angels are there to assist us in living more gentle lives. We just have to ask.


The end of the year is generally viewed as a season of parties, dinners with friends, and reunions with families. Despite the fun, the season can be a highly stressful time of cooking, traveling, or gathering with family members worlds apart in lifestyles and/or beliefs.

If you are cooking a large meal, consider saying, "I request a Most Benevolent Outcome that the food I prepare will be perfect for my group, and that our time together will be enjoyable. Thank you." Certainly you can change the wording to fit the circumstances, but remember that the requests need be benevolent not only for you, but all involved in the request.

You can request a Most Benevolent Outcome for any kind of gathering. Just say, "I ask that during the time I am at (name the location) that our experience be delightful. Thank you." This may seem like you're asking too much, but ask for the impossible!

Or, if you know a difficult family member or acquaintance will be at a specific party, I suggest saying, "I ask that any and all beings come to the assistance of (name) so that he/she remains pleasant during the time I'm there." This is a "Living Prayer" that you can say for other people. Change the wording to fit your needs. Or you can say, "I request a Most Benevolent Outcome for having a pleasant relationship with (name) during the time I am with them."

If you are worried about you and/or your children's safety while in the presence of someone you know may be abusive say, "I ask that my safety and my children's safety will be guaranteed in a way that is benevolent to us all." This can also be said if you are currently in a relationship where you are fearful for the same reasons.

When you request Most Benevolent Outcomes for yourself, it also affects others—I call this the "radiant effect." Many of these requests will be benevolent for all of those around you, especially when you request a MBO for someone who has caused problems in the past. The "radiant effect" produced by your simple requests can make any holiday event much more congenial and joyful!

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