It’s not so much about getting what you want as having what it takes to give to others.

Give. Be the giver. Be generous. Be voluptuous with your love.

Give first. Be the first to say who you are — otherwise, the world will define you and you’ll have less to give.

Be the first to say I love you, because you do love — instantly.

Be the first to give an apology, even if you’re just thinking about being sorry.

Giving will show you who you are.

(You may not be who you thought you were, and you’ll realize you have so much more … to give.)

Give up your seat.

Give up your beliefs and you’ll be able to give more freely.

Give in the way that only you can give.

Give of yourself. You’ll never regret it.

And never stop giving.

Danielle LaPorte is the author of The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide for Creating Success on Your Own Terms (Random House/Crown). An inspirational speaker, former think tank exec and business strategist, she is the co-creator of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan. Her next online program launches November 2012, called DESIRE: The Map to What You Truly Want. Over a million visitors have gone to DanielleLaPorte.com for her straight-up advice -- a site that's been deemed “the best place on-line for kick-ass spirituality”, and was named one of the "Top 100 Websites for Women" by Forbes. You can find her on Facebook and Twitter.