7 Ways to Mess Up Your Life

You’ve probably read lots of articles and blogs about all the positive things you can do to stay healthy, be less stressed, make more money and attract your soul mate. Perhaps you’ve tried meditating, saying affirmations, praying or chanting. However, we’re all so different! What may work for your best friend or your favorite self-help author, might not work for you. You may have found these articles don’t really challenge you to make the necessary changes. The techniques got a little boring or you just weren’t able to sustain the routines they suggested. Perhaps you like things a little contrary or your inner rebel wants to…REBEL when you read this stuff. You may have discovered that you need to see and feel the undesirable consequences of your inaction. If so, this article is for you! Following are 7 ways to really mess up your life.

Blame Everyone Else for Your Problems

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If it wasn’t for your mom (fill in the blank with: dad, accountant, boyfriend, boss, former BFF, your kids…) your life would be great! They had total responsibility for everything bad that happened to you. You spend a lot of time and mental energy cataloging other people’s bad behavior. However, as the saying goes, “When you point a finger at someone, there are three fingers pointing back at you!” The problem with this way of thinking is that you believe that someone else has to change in order for things to improve in your life. It gives you no sense of control, or genuine happiness. YOU, your own thoughts, feeling and attitudes are the ones to look at to bring about that inner peace.

Eat Junk Food and Don’t Exercise

Okay…if you’re a twenty-something reading this, perhaps you haven’t noticed the effect that being a couch potato and eating fast food has on you. If you’re in your thirties or older, this lifestyle really slows you down. If you feel tired, exhausted and confused on an ongoing basis, life doesn’t feel like living. You get sick and gain weight. Life is no longer fun. It’s time for a change. Take small steps. What do you like to eat? Learn to make these things for yourself. Include some fresh vegetables and fruits. Make your own lunch to bring to work. Go out to a park for your lunch break instead of grabbing food from the vending machine. Take a walk or do something else fun for exercise every day, even it’s for five minutes at first. Just begin.

Quit When Things Get Difficult

Have you hit a roadblock? Are you out of your comfort zone? Do you mess things up by simply quitting and going in another direction? If you do this often enough you’ll find that the same roadblock/failure/quit cycle keeps happening. Things that are worth doing in life usually take time, work and persistence. People who succeed in life understand they may have to go through some challenging times. These include setbacks and even seeming failures. If you’ve experienced an obstacle, find a way around it. Take some time to rest, step back from it for a few hours or days and then ask yourself, “What’s a fresh approach that will allow me to succeed?” Listen for the answers. That’s your intuition talking!