Seeing the Best in Others
Healthy families also make the most out of assets and minimize liabilities. Family members give each other the benefit of the doubt, assume the best of each other, and see the good intentions in other's actions. When a child spills the milk, it's a mistake, not a misdemeanor. It doesn’t necessarily mean “He’s out to get you!”
Parents also realize that while a child may speak or act inappropriately, they don’t think of the child as bad. They recognize the difference between the person and the pattern of behavior that they see in others, teaching that most people are basically good and well-intended even when acting badly.