10 Things You Should Never Do After Discovering a Spouses Affair

There is nothing so terrifying in a married woman's life than the threat of an unfaithful spouse. Why? Well, most everything else we can handle; losing a job, losing a parent, the sickness of a child or relative. All of those things can be "fixed"; they have solutions that we can band together with our spouse to overcome.

But an affair is the relationship equivalent of pouring roundup on fresh, green grass; it kills everything around it. If you're unfortunate enough to be faced with this situation, there are things you should do...but more importantly, things you shouldn't. Chin up, sweetheart. We're going to get through this together.

If He's in a Relationship With the Person He Cheated On You With, Don't Treat Her Like Yesterday's Trash

This is going to be the hardest one to do in real life because our egos are bruised. She is the reason our "happily-ever-after" didn't happen! Unfortunately, though, it DID happen, and you focusing your energy on slamming doors in her face when she shows up with him to pick up the kids is not going to make anything better. I'm not saying you have to schedule a mani/pedi day with her; I'm saying take the high road and tell yourself that the real reason your happily-ever-after didn't happen isn't just her -- it's him.