General Lack of Effort in Courtship
If we want to keep chivalry and courtship alive, we need to set the standard in our lives that it’s the only thing we will accept. This comes from being able to openly communicate what we value and look for in a partner. It is not a “treat me this way or I’m out” type of attitude, but more of setting boundaries and expectations early on so if someone really wants to keep your attention, they will understand the level of effort they need to put in consistently in order to do so.
Planning a date rather than ‘just winging it,’ calling and asking a woman out rather than texting her, opening doors, pulling out chairs, some form of reciprocation from a woman rather than just assuming she is owed a man’s constant efforts just because she is a woman…
If we accept lackluster treatment early on during a relationship, there is no magic pill that will make our partner spark to life after we have committed to him or her. We need to set a bar for what we will and will not accept, and then nail that bar into place. The right person will rise up to meet it when all of the wrong ones will just complain about how high it is.
