8 Things You Should Always Ask on a First Date

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First dates can be exciting and scary. If you’ve been single for a while, you may be anxious. You also may be having a difficult time adapting to getting back into the dating world. Sometimes it’s hard to open up to someone because you don’t know them or trust them yet, which makes asking personal questions pretty difficult. It may also be hard to come up with the right questions to ask. When we aren’t afraid to ask certain questions, we have the opportunity to learn so much about the person sitting in front of us. Don’t you want to know who you may be preparing to invest your time in? It’s important that you know if they are emotionally available and if they are truly ready to be involved with someone again. Here are eight things you should always ask on a first date. If you don’t know what to ask in the early stages of getting to know someone, these are good places to start.

What are you looking for in a relationship?

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Are they looking for something casual and short-term, or are they looking for a long-term, committed relationship? It’s important that you determine what they are looking for before you invest yourself emotionally. It’s also important that you’re clear about what you’re looking for also, so that you don’t mislead them or ignore your own needs. What’s the point in getting invested in someone if they aren’t looking for the same things you’re looking for in a relationship? Remember, not everyone in the dating world is looking for the same things you are so if you’re looking for love, make sure they are looking for the same thing.

What happened with you and your ex?

This is the second part to the previous question. At first glance, this may seem like one of the most inappropriate questions to ask on a first date; however, it’s important that you understand their past before moving forward. This one question can reveal a lot about a person – what they’ve been through and where their heart is. People often do a good job at hiding their fears and insecurities on a first date until their past shows up. We often don’t bring it up on the first date because we don’t want to make the person uncomfortable but it’s something we want to know and will eventually come to know, whether they want you to or not. They may struggle with their response or the answer may come easy. This question will help you see this person in a different light. You may surprised at how much you’re able to relate to their responses.