6 Signs a Person is Capable of Loving You Unconditionally

Love should be so easy, yet it is so complicated. Scratch that! People are complicated. Love is not.

The definition for love is “A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.” Sounds pretty good, right?

What sounds even better is the definition for unconditional love. It is “Affection with no limits or conditions, complete love.”

Unconditional love is often reserved for children and family members. People tend to believe that glorious ‘true love’ relationships are elusive, but what if we have the power within us to turn our own relationships into just that? It begins with asking how we find a person who is capable of loving unconditionally.

They are Confident

Sounds so simple doesn't it? However, there are people who appear confident, but in actuality lack the authentic confidence it takes to be devoid of ego. An ego gets in the way of unconditional love.

There are capable individuals who project confidence. However, there are really two types of confidence. There is the otherwise self- assured human being who for most purposes is confident, yet down deep their ego prevents them from achieving fully graduated confidence. They allow their ego to project onto others. They need others to be exactly like them and have their same world view.

There are also those, the ones with fully graduated confidence who are minus ego and they have fabulous ability to truly see, appreciate and celebrate another person for exactly who they are. This person doesn’t criticize the people they love for their differences.

They are Good Communicators

They can communicate with respect and without ego. They have the ability to resolve conflict rather than attach it to the relationship with the possibility of making the other person feel badly about themselves.

Good communication is typically a learned skill. The average person has not grown up around or been exposed to great communication. Families are complicated with many personality types and they typically bring forward whatever type of communication came from the generation before them. The exciting part is that good communication skills can be liberating to a person and especially a relationship.

Once an individual or couple learns how to truly respect AND communicate, they have the ability to hear one another and resolve conflict. Furthermore, they are able to do so without name calling, accusations, judgements, yelling and doing damage to another persons self-worth.

They are Not Judgmental

They are tolerant and accepting. This is also a nod to a confident individual who is grown up enough to accept that not only is every person different, but the world necessitates it. It should be celebrated rather than criticized.

There is somehow a perceived threat to others being different from one another. It causes a person who lacks fully graduated confidence to not tolerate individuals being different from them. Every single human being is capable of judgement, after all, it is the human condition; however, repeated judgements hail from a fragile ego and lack of confidence.

A mature, ego-less, confident, non-controlling individual is not frightened by individual differences and flaws. They love their spouse regardless of them. They have the type of graduated confidence that makes them fully accepting of others.

They were Unconditionally Loved Themselves

They come from families who have loved well and avoided the pitfalls of controlling, disrespectful, ego-filled relationships. Or they come from families who loved well, but did not communicate with respect and they learned how to go on to take that love and learn the type of communication that makes it truly unconditional. In other words, people who come from complicated backgrounds, but crave the growth and self-awareness it takes to love even better in the next generation.

There are also families that for the most part love unconditionally, yet they have these negative aspects of immaturity, ego, control and sadly they send a mixed message…

“I love you, but I don’t like you.”

This equals one part ‘unconditional love’ (I love you) with one part ‘conditional love’ (I don’t like you).

They are Mature

There are individuals that grow up and then there are individuals who still behave much the same way they did when they were young. It is difficult for an immature person to love unconditionally because they still have the spoiled tendencies of a child. They still put themselves and their own needs first. They are so tied up in their own need to get their way that they don't have the maturity and selflessness necessary to love unconditionally.

Maturity is as tricky a topic as confidence. There are many people walking around in the world who ‘appear’ to have grown up when in reality they are still the young child who left their own home many years ago. They still behave with childlike, spoiled behavior which includes; demands, tantrums, storming out of rooms, slamming doors, refusing to listen, turning away silently, needing to be right, etc. It is difficult to get unconditional love from this type of individual who is still too busy strictly trying to win and get their way.