For a woman to fully commit to her marriage and for her to throw her heart and soul into it, she must experience a number of distinct feelings. These are essentials that provide the foundations for her belief in the relationship. Often, women come into a marriage thinking that they’ll never feel unwanted or unattractive again. However, the reality is there will always be days when they don’t feel attractive at all, and sadly, sometimes it’s because of something their husbands did or failed to do. While your wife must build up her self-confidence, husbands should also be careful that they don’t hurt their wives’ feelings inadvertently.
Even without meaning to, there are subtle ways that husbands can send the wrong message to the woman they love the most. No matter how attractive you find your wife, you could be unintentionally telling her the opposite of your actions. Are you ready to thwart the bad habits that make your wife feel unwanted? Here are five ways a man makes his wife feel ugly without saying a single word and what you can do about it.
Never complimenting her efforts.
A compliment is one of the sweetest things a husband can give to his wife. It is easy to have thoughts quickly pass through your mind about her, but actually, telling her takes a conscious effort. More than anyone else, wives need to feel loved and desired by their husbands. Your wife values your opinion, and when she switches something up, even in the slightest way, how you respond to her is hugely important. This is why you must pay close attention to your wife. If you notice anything different, acknowledge it. Tell her things like she looks amazing, that you really love the meal she made, that she’s the best mom or that she looks like she’s losing weight. When you hone in on the little things that matter to her the most, she knows you are really paying attention to her and that you value her.
Overly praising other women.
Your wife is the most important woman in your life. Every day, you’ll interact with many women – while walking on the street, in the workplace, and in your circle of friends, but your friendship with them should never interfere with your marriage. While telling a woman she looks beautiful will make her entire day, complimenting a woman’s body is inappropriate unless she’s your wife. While you can acknowledge another woman’s strengths, if you overdo it, your wife might think that you’re comparing her with that other woman. The way you comment about another woman, in general, could make her think you’re into her, and whether you are or not, that’s not a message you should be sending to another woman. Be aware that everything you say sends intentional and unintentional messages to your wife and other women. You don’t need to stop interacting with all women once you’re married, but make sure your interactions with them are appropriate.
Do a double-take when another woman walks by.
Noticing other women’s beauty is unavoidable, but for the sake of your wife, do your best not to ogle. No matter how subtle you think you’re being, your wife will notice when you’re checking out another woman. She sees you when you’re doing a double take when another woman walks by or is lightly flirtatious at the check-out counter. Wives know their husbands are wired to notice and appreciate beauty, but gawking is offensive. She notices, even when she doesn’t say anything. It deeply hurts your wife to see you looking at other women, and if you do it a lot, it can really affect her self-esteem and trust in the marriage.
Looking at pornography.
You may think watching a little porn is harmless, but regardless of how frequently you look at it, you might be inadvertently telling your wife that she isn’t enough. Though some women say that they’re fine with their partners viewing adult material, most would feel hurt and betrayed if they knew that their husbands still watched porn. Even if she didn’t know your viewing habits, porn can still affect your relationship. Yes, porn is fake, and you might view it as harmless fantasy, but the truth is, porn isn’t harmless at all. Studies show that viewing porn makes a user more critical of their partner and less satisfied with their relationship and sex life. Real love requires a real commitment to a real person. Porn just makes it harder for someone to have a real, loving relationship.
Showing no physical attraction.
Affection demonstrates that you care about someone and that you are willing to be there for them. When you show your wife physical affection, you are telling her that you care about how she feels and that you want to feel close to them. It demonstrates your bond with her. Lack of affection from a husband can make a wife feel alienated and unloved. While it is normal to begin getting comfortable in your relationship and show less physical affection to your significant other, it is a bad habit to continue. Not showing your wife affection other than in the bedroom can lead her to feel unattractive and used. A hug or a kiss on the forehead can feel so much more intimate than sex. You must let your wife know that you value her not only for sex but also that you find her attractive.
Your wife wants to feel safe and secure in her relationship. She wants to feel trusted and trustful. She also wants to feel appreciated, respected and cared for. Many of these cues come from her husband. When a woman feels attractive and loved in her marriage, she will feel a complete sense of comfort in her relationship. Not feeling loved will be the subtext of every argument you and your partner will have and can completely derail your marriage. Learn to see through her words, actions and moods and see what the real root of it is.
