We
There is power in the word “we.” The difference between “I” and “we” may be an important distinction in the quality of your relationship. According to a University of California, Berkeley study of 154 middle-aged and older couples, couples who used more collective pronouns, such as “we,” “our,” and “us” had more positive interactions and showed fewer signs of stress than those who used more individual ones, such as “I,” “me,” and “you.” The use of “we” declares partnership. When you use “we” in your vocabulary, you are saying that you and your spouse are on the same team and that you’re confident in being able to face your problems together.