The Economy of Forgiveness

By Doug Holladay

The British poet and playwright Hannah Moore referred to forgiveness as the "economy of the heart." She explained, "It saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits."

Along with gratitude, all the world's spiritual traditions also emphasize the importance of forgiveness. For many people, however, forgiveness is a more challenging attitude to embrace. As the great English poet Alexander Pope noted, "To err is human, to forgive divine." Not surprisingly, contemporary science has begun to demonstrate the benefits of this divine attribute.

The practice of forgiveness boosts the immune system, lowers high blood pressure, reduces anxiety and depression, and improves sleep patterns, according to Fred Luskin, PhD, director of the Forgiveness Project at Stanford University and author of Forgive for Good. And Dr. Luskin's research suggests that forgiveness is a skill that can be learned. Developing your skill in forgiveness is easier when you remember the following points.

Forgiveness is Easier with Blessing

You don't need to be religious or spiritual to bless someone. You can do it just because it will help you feel better. Pierre Pradervand, author of The Gentle Art of Blessing, describes a blessing as genuinely wishing the best for another person. He suggests that we "systematically replace every single thought of judgment with blessing - especially for that fellow at the office who drives you out of your wits!"

Just as blaming and resenting others weakens us, blessing them can provide a surprising source of strength. And you may be delighted to discover that your life becomes more harmonious as the blessings you give are returned to you.